Don’t just take our word for it – this is what some past guests have said about the course. Why not share your story?
David and Lise
First impressions for David and Lise were not positive. Lise was over from Australia for a wedding and thought David was ‘all the things about British bankers that were bad’. Meanwhile, he found Lise ‘a loud, annoying Aussie’! But several months in the UK changed their opinion of one another; they began dating and when Lise returned to Australia, David followed her out there. After a four month engagement they were married in Adelaide, Australia, and now live in London with their two children, Amelia and Eloise. Lise recalls an early adjustment she had to make: ‘David asked me not to cook so many roast dinners. I was averaging three a week trying to impress him!’
David’s parents had divorced when he was young. He said, ‘Reading The Marriage Book and spending time with Lise’s family and others who were still together really helped give me a picture of what it could be like and that it could be good’.Their marriage got off to a challenging start: Lise contracted chronic fatigue (ME) from a virus and spent her days battling headaches and exhaustion. They decided to do The Marriage Course. Lise said, ‘Our marriage was ok- but it was during the time I had ME which put quite a strain on our relationship. I remember sitting on the floor for most of the course as I didn’t have the energy to sit in a chair and David sat with me. There were lots of tears and hugs as it was such a gloomy time, but it really helped us to see past our situation and focus on each other, which was what we needed.
‘It was great being there. We totally blocked everyone out and amazingly, although we were surrounded by a lot of people, we got lost in our own world. We were almost surprised at the end of the evening to find other couples sitting a few metres away. We particularly valued the sessions on communication and resolving conflict and have found ourselves adopting many of the practical tips modelled on the course. For example, we really notice the difference it makes when we have a date night, one of the course’s very practical suggestions.‘We are chalk and cheese in terms of our personalities. But, taking part in The Marriage Course has given us the confidence that, even though we are very different and often don’t agree on many things, our marriage is and will be strong. We have learnt the skills to understand our differences and keep our communication clear. Of course, it’s not always easy and we don’t always do it right, but we now know how to work at clearing up a mess when just get into one!’
David and Lise
Paul and Sonja
Sonja: 'Before doing The Marriage Course we didn’t really understand how we each wanted to receive love. I would do what worked for me, and Paul would love in the way that worked best for him. In practice this meant that Paul, whose primary love language is physical touch, would frequently try to express love to me by putting his arm around me and giving me a kiss or cuddle. However, I grew up in the States in a home where we didn’t necessarily go round showing physical affection, so physical touch was not as important to me. Now because I’ve come to understand that it is very important to Paul, I try to make sure that I hold his hand or hug him or something like that.'
Paul: 'I realised that kind words are something that’s more important to Sonja, more important than they are to me. She needs feedback and encouragement about her work, how she looks when we’re ready to go out, or if she’s made a nice meal.'
They said: 'The course changed our attitudes towards each other. We came to understand so much about the way we could relate to each other and convey our feelings and love. It’s part of us now. It’s fantastic!'
Paul and Sonja
Sally and Clive
Sally: ‘Marriage was ok most of the time but I hoped that the course was going to tell Clive how he should behave or what he had to do, when actually it showed me what I needed to do and how I should behave! I knew I loved Clive but The Marriage Course made me fall in love with him all over again.’
Clive: ‘I’m one of those people who learned the most. I couldn’t believe how much I got wrong about how Sally needed to be loved.’
They said: ‘It has strengthened our love for each other more than we could have possible imagined. Previously, we would have described ourselves as being happily married for 39 years, now as we approach our 40th anniversary it’s getting dramatically better.’
Pete and Gill
Gill: ‘The Marriage Course saved our marriage. Pete had no hope beforehand and the turnaround was dramatic. However, the impact of the course was much more than that. The course provided a window through which love’s incredible healing and renewing power steamed in. Bathing in that light, we were brought not just closer together, we were brought closer to the presence of love’s source; really close: the deep intimacy that comes from knowing and being known, by one another and by God who is love.’
Pete: ‘The course gave me the ability to see our relationship in a completely new way. It challenged me to ask myself, did I want the bad things in our life to have the final word on our relationship? A glimmer of hope came back, which over the course grew to a real desire and commitment to rescue our relationship and make that our number one goal. Our marriage is now such fun and so very exciting. Who wouldn’t want to see that sort of thing spread around a bit more?’
Claudio and Carolina
Claudio & Carolina attended The Marriage Course in Santiago, Chile
Carolina: 'For me, doing the Marriage Course was an excellent tool for the Lord to show us how important it was that HE be in the midst of our relationship; we knew this in theory however talking through the various themes, we experienced it in a practical and tangible way; that it is the Lord who should rule in our lives for us to be able to truly love our spouse. For me the theme of giving up certain learnt behavioral patterns within the resolution of conflict is still important, and to let the Lord lead the way in order to solve our differences. Which do exist!. We have found it very useful to refer to our guest manuals and the Marriage Book to review certain themes and to re-examine whether we are doing well or not.'
'Para mí; realizar Curso para Matrimonios fue una excelente herramienta para que el Señor nos mostrara lo importante que era EL en medio de esta relación; eso lo sabíamos en teoría sin embargo conversando los variados temas, experimentamos en forma tangible y práctica que es el Señor quien debe gobernar en nuestras vidas para poder recién amar a nuestro cónyuge, Para mí sigue siendo importante el tema de renuciar a ciertos patrones familiares de resolucion de conflictos y dejar que sea el Señor quien dirija la forma de solucionar nuestras diferencias ¡Que si que las hay!. Nos ha resultado de mucha utilidad recurrir a nuestra libro de guia y/o al libro del El y Ella para repasar ciertos temas y volver a examinarnos si estamos bien o no.'
Claudio: 'The course was a very important tool for our marriage, which was only a year and a half old. The different ways in which to face conflict and honor in sexual life are the themes which most impacted me and where I still have to pay attention. The course showed me how much I still needed in order to reach the stature of Christ in our marriage and to be the husband which God intended me to be. The clear couple presentations who had experienced the same as us and who had struggled against selfishness, were easy to understand, entertaining, and most of them fitted like a glove.'
'El curso fue una herramienta muy importante para mi matrimonio, que recién tenía un año y medio año de vida. La diferencias para enfrentar el conflicto y la honra en la vida sexual son los temas que más me impactaron y en los que aún debo poner atención. El curso me mostró cuánto me faltaba para ponerme a la estatura de Cristo y para ser el marido que Dios quería que fuera. Las exposiciones, sencillas, de parejas que sufrieron lo mismo que uno, que lucharon contra el mismo egocentrismo, fueron cercanas, amenas, como anillo al dedo la mayoría de ellas.'
They said: 'It without a doubt gave us TOOLS to build, repair and enhance our marital relationship. It also encouraged us to serve others through helping at the marriage preparation course, to look at the importance of discussing important issues for those who are thinking of getting married and not to just give them for granted.'
'Sin duda nos entrego HERRAMIENTAS para poder construir; reparar y decorar nuestra relacion matrimonial. Y tambien nos animó a servir a otros mediante el curso pre-matrimonial, que imporatnte es que aquellos que piensan en casarse puedan hablar de temas tan relevantes y no darlo por sentado.'